BEHAVIOR

Body language accounts for 50-70% of all communication. The best way to gauge your caliber is by closely observing how you interact with others through body language and vocal expression. Some men are skilled at projecting the image of a HIGH-CALIBER MAN, while inwardly feeling like a low-caliber man. Your true caliber can be revealed by analyzing your body language and vocal expression, especially under stress or pressure. These moments trigger instinctual responses, uncovering your internal sense of worth.

Most men are unaware of the constant displays of dominance and submission happening around them. However, once you learn to recognize these subtle cues, you'll notice them everywhere. The most challenging part is examining your own dominant and submissive traits. If you identify as a low-caliber man, you can evolve into a HIGH-CALIBER MAN. Similarly, even a HIGH-CALIBER MAN can regress to a lower caliber if complacency sets in. It all begins with awareness. Once you become aware of something, its influence over you diminishes.

NO MAN IS EVER A PURE CALIBER. CHECK BELOW FOR TRAITS OF YOUR CALIBER.

As in "superior," synonyms for high-caliber include admirable, exceptional, first-rate, good, preferable, remarkable, superhuman, above, capital, choice, dandy, exclusive, expert, fine, major, over, premium, primary, senior, a cut above, deluxe, distinguished, exceeding, famous, finer, first-class, first-string, five-star, good quality, grander, high-class, more advanced, more skillful, noteworthy, of higher rank, overlying, paramount, predominant, preferred, prevailing, superincumbent, surpassing, and unrivalled.

As in "inferior," synonyms for low-caliber include detestable, normal, ordinary, unremarkable, usual, bad, low-class, minor, poor, secondary, unimportant, below, humble, lower, and meek.

Open, taking up as much space as needed. They aren’t concerned about appearing threatening because they know they can handle whatever comes their way. Their body language can be summed up by one word: Relaxed. Never appearing tense or afraid, even in times of panic.

Closed, taking up as little space as possible, so as not to threaten others. Although they don’t take up this pose literally, their general body language is based on the fear-crouch reflex which involves curling up into a ball in order to protect your organs and arteries in the event you are attacked. Their natural tendency is to take on defended body positions, and to be slightly anxious, especially in times of panic.

Head straight-facing, with the chin-up, unafraid of  exposing the neck to attack because they know they can handle it.

Like the fear-crouch reflex, the head has a tendency to be tilted forward to protect the neck from attack. This can lead to stooped postures and an inclination to bow your head and look down a lot.

In conversation, the head is still and there is minimal nodding in response. They are confident enough without having to please others.

Head nodding is common during conversation as an attempt to please others and seem agreeable.

Relaxed face. They don’t have a need to smile often as they don’t need to please anyone to gain status.

Smiling often, (aka “fear face”) to please and say they are not a threat.

Longer eye contact is found amongst high status people. They do not have the checking behavior of the low status people, because they do not fear attack. Slow blink rate is standard amongst high status people. You know the staring game when the first person to look away loses? Effectively, the first person to look away has lower status.

Short eye contact, often followed by checking to see if the person is still looking at them is a low status sign. This checking behavior is an important survival instinct when you fear attack. This is why it’s so common amongst prey animals like mice and other small mammals. Blinking rapidly is also a sign of nervousness/ fear and low status.

Relaxed mouth. No face touching.

Touching your mouth or chewing a fingernail.

Chest is wide and proud.

Closed body language doesn’t emphasize chest.

Straight backed with exposed neck.

May be slightly bent over/ stooped/slouching.

If sitting, rolled out shoulders result in relaxed hands on thighs with the palms up.

Fidgety, face-touching often.

Legs spread wide apart with feet flat on the floor. You take up more space.

Legs are close together, taking up little space. If sitting on the floor, legs are bent up to the chest to protect your body organs.

Feet firmly planted in ground, and straight.

Turn your toes inwards (pigeon toes)

A person who is feeling defensive and dominant will take an asymmetrical pose, so one side of the body doesn’t mirror the other.

Someone who is feeling defensive and submissive will sit in a symmetrical position. One side of their body is a perfect mirror image of the other side. They display tense muscle tone and look as if they expect to be attacked.

They tend to face people front-on, unafraid of this being seen as a threat.

They may face people side on i.e. sit or stand with the body facing one way, but the head pointing towards the person they are addressing. This is a way of appearing less confrontational and threatening.

Smooth movements. When they walk, they may take relaxed, confident strides.

Fidgety, jerky movements. When they walk, strides vary from small steps, to tense steps, to tentative steps.

When we speak, we do more than convey our thoughts and emotions; we reveal our education, our emotional intelligence, our worldview, and the depth of our character. Every word, tone, and nuance reflects our inner landscape, shaping how others perceive us.

Low-Caliber Speech: The Traits of Fast and Uncertain Communication

Fast speech often mirrors the behavior of prey animals, moving quickly to avoid interruption or dominance by higher-status individuals. People who speak in this manner may feel they need to express their thoughts rapidly, fearing their opportunity to contribute might be cut short. This rushed delivery can result in speech patterns that appear jerky, clipped, or poorly structured.

Characteristics of such speech include:

Frequent hesitations, filler words (e.g., ums, uhs, ers), and stammering or stuttering. Incomplete sentences or fragmented thoughts, marked by phrases like "I mean..." or abrupt changes in direction. Short bursts of speech with clipped vowels, such as "ah" and "um" instead of elongated versions ("aaaah," "uuuuuum"). This style may also exhibit behavioral signals:

A tendency to apologize frequently, striving to avoid being perceived as a threat. Yielding quickly to interruptions, allowing others to take control of the conversation. Rising inflection at the end of sentences, making statements sound like questions, as though seeking validation or permission. Soft, cautious tones designed to minimize any impression of assertiveness. Ultimately, this speech pattern can unintentionally project a lack of confidence or authority, leaving the speaker in a subordinate communicative position.

High-Caliber Speech: The Hallmarks of Confident and Commanding Communication High-caliber speech reflects a sense of confidence and self-assuredness, characterized by a deliberate and composed delivery. Individuals who communicate in this manner exude an innate belief that their words are valuable and deserving of careful attention.

Key traits of high-caliber speech include:

Pace and Thoughtfulness: Speaking slowly and deliberately, giving their thoughts the space to be fully formed and clearly articulated. Elongated Vowels: Pronouncing vowels with intention and emphasis (aaaaaah or uuuuuum instead of clipped ah or um), signaling measured reflection rather than hurried uncertainty. Volume and Presence: Speaking with a steady, resonant voice that commands attention. They may raise their volume when appropriate, unafraid of being perceived as assertive or imposing. This style is underpinned by behavioral cues:

Confidence in Expression: Taking their time to speak signals an understanding of their own worth and the value of their ideas. Comfort with Confrontation: Loud, clear speech conveys an unshaken readiness to address challenges or meet opposition, demonstrating resilience and authority. Controlled Delivery: Each word is deliberate, free of unnecessary filler or hesitations, creating an impression of clarity and purpose. Through measured speech, individuals project leadership, self-respect, and an ability to influence and inspire, asserting their position without fear or apology.

Why am I the caliber of man that I am?

The Two Primary Determinants of Caliber

Caliber—the measure of a person’s intrinsic and extrinsic worth—stems from two key factors: inborn worth and conditioned worth.

1. Inborn Worth: Personality-Linked Value From birth, individuals display innate tendencies that hint at their caliber. Within weeks of life, babies reveal their natural inclinations, particularly in moments of stress or pressure.

High-Caliber Babies: Tend to be relaxed, calm, and composed even in unfamiliar or challenging situations.

Low-Caliber Babies: Often exhibit anxiousness, restlessness, or heightened sensitivity under pressure. These early traits are not fleeting; they frequently persist throughout life, serving as the foundational blueprint for a person’s intrinsic worth.

2. Conditioned Worth: Shaped Through Experience While inborn tendencies set the stage, external influences and life experiences play a critical role in shaping conditioned worth.

Positive Conditioning: Encouragement, praise, and recognition foster confidence, enhancing one’s internal sense of value. A child reminded of their strengths and talents develops resilience and self-assurance, amplifying their inherent caliber.

Negative Conditioning: Reprimands, criticism, or being perpetually undervalued can lower self-esteem, creating a conditioned sense of lesser worth. However, even those with high inborn worth can resist these effects if their natural core remains strong.

Conditioned worth is further influenced by:

Ascribed Worth: This external valuation stems from factors such as family background, wealth, social class, race, gender, religion, or political affiliation. These factors often shape how others perceive us, whether or not they reflect our true inner value.

Achievement-Linked Worth: Derived from accomplishments, such as education, career success, accumulated wealth, physical strength, style, beauty, social achievements, or marital status. These external markers of success contribute to how a person’s worth is externally measured.

The Balance of Caliber While inborn worth lays the foundation, conditioned worth is a dynamic force that evolves through life. It can reinforce or counteract natural tendencies, making it possible to enhance one’s caliber through intentional growth, resilience, and achievement. Ultimately, true caliber emerges from harmonizing innate qualities with the lessons and opportunities life provides.

Focus on Internal Worth: Your internal worth—confidence, presence, and inner strength—matters far more than external markers like status or wealth. Strengthening your inner value naturally enhances your external success and impact.

The HIGH-CALIBER EMPOWERMENT COURSE: THE DECADA is designed to elevate your internal worth, providing proven principles and strategies thousands of men have used to become confident, high-caliber individuals.

Unlock your potential, embody presence, and transform into the HIGH-CALIBER MAN you were meant to be.

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